{"id":655,"date":"2019-12-07T06:08:02","date_gmt":"2019-12-07T14:08:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/drsarahrattray.com\/?p=655"},"modified":"2022-05-24T06:51:56","modified_gmt":"2022-05-24T06:51:56","slug":"the-myth-thats-ruining-your-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/couplescommunicationinstitute.com\/the-myth-thats-ruining-your-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"The Myth That\u2019s Ruining Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

In my years\u00a0of working with couples in therapy, I\u2019ve noticed a dangerous myth that almost everyone believes about relationships, and it\u2019s no wonder because we learn this belief from a very young age. We see it in romcoms and novels, we see it on TV, but it\u2019s not the way real relationships with real people work.<\/p>\n

You probably believe this myth too, and it might be causing issues in your relationship and fostering\u00a0resentment and anger without you even knowing it! The problem isn\u2019t your partner, and it\u2019s not even YOU per se. The problem is a false belief that you can actually unlearn.<\/p>\n

So\u00a0let\u2019s talk about that, shall we?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

In my years\u00a0of\u00a0counseling couples, I\u2019ve noticed a dangerous myth that almost everyone believes about relationships, and it\u2019s no wonder because we learn this belief from a very young age. We see it in romcoms and novels, we see it on TV, but it\u2019s not the way real relationships with real people work.You probably believe this myth too, and it might be causing issues in your relationship and fostering\u00a0resentment and anger without you even knowing it! The problem isn\u2019t your partner, and it\u2019s not even YOU per se. The problem is a false belief that you can actually unlearn.So\u00a0let\u2019s talk about that, shall we?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":708,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[14,16],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nThe Myth That\u2019s Ruining Your Relationship - Couples Communication Institute<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/couplescommunicationinstitute.com\/the-myth-thats-ruining-your-relationship\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Myth That\u2019s Ruining Your Relationship - Couples Communication Institute\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"In my years\u00a0of\u00a0counseling couples, I\u2019ve noticed a dangerous myth that almost everyone believes about relationships, and it\u2019s no wonder because we learn this belief from a very young age. 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